What are you doing to kill your dreams? Would you like to know how to avoid the things you're doing so you can have a successful business?
Hopefully, anyone who is building a business has a few dreams and goals they would like to achieve.
Maybe it’s to reach $10k month in sales, prospect 20 leaders in the next quarter, move to the mountains or maybe an ocean, travel the world. You get the idea.
But I bet you that you are doing things every day that kill those dreams instead of helping them come to fruition, and in essence prevent you from creating a successful business.
Mark came across a Ted Talk a couple years ago that was perfect for this topic.
5 Ways You're Killing Your Dreams and How to Avoid Them for a Successful Business
1. Believe in overnight success.
It’s so tempting to believe that every overnight successful business story you hear is true, right? And then what happens? You start to doubt YOUR abilities.
But the truth is there is no such thing as an overnight success.
- The guy who has walked across the stage at your last event and made $100k in his first 45 days…
- The woman who has built an empire with only a team of 25…
- The 13-year-old who just picked up a violin and instantly played the most beautiful music you’ve ever heard…
I’m sorry to tell you, but they are not overnight success stories.
I remember sitting at an event back in 2015 and watching person after person walking across the stage while they announced how fast they got their results.
But they left out the MOST IMPORTANT part of the story.
I don’t understand why instead of making everyone else feel like dirt and wonder what they’re even doing there since they didn’t generate anywhere near the same results, they didn’t just use it as a teaching example. (I know, it's for inspiration. Well who truly feels inspired after that??)
Imagine this scenario. This is what SHOULD happen...
You are at your company event. They bring on the newest star. He is 21 years old and just made $100k in his first 60 days.
Then the business founder comes out and says, “Who thinks this is an incredible accomplishment?”
The place erupts into applause.
Then he says, “Who wants results like these?”
Again, more applause.
What he says next floors and inspires everyone in attendance.
“If you want results like this, you have to work for them. You must learn everything you can learn, teach everything you can teach, set aside all those limiting beliefs, and quiet those voices in your head that tell you you’ll never be good enough. You have to trip, fall, and then get up again and use the failure as a learning point.”
“Max (fictitious name) here, it’s true he made $100k in this first 60 days IN THIS COMPANY. But he’s worked his tail off building an email list, putting tons of value out, teaching everyone who will listen everything he knows for the last 3 years. It was only when he jumped into this company that all those previous actions started to pay off. Only then was he able to create that successful business we all dream about.”
That’s the whole story. Max spent years learning and growing, building and teaching.
Maybe the next person across the stage is 40 years old and achieved $50k in his first 60 days. And again, they tell you that for 20 years he struggled to build a business. He spent 20 years very slowly building an email list that he continued to provide value and content to daily.
That 13-year-old violinist has been practicing since she was 5 years old.
That woman who build an empire with a team of only 25 people had paid $100k for a top-notch coach.
There is no such thing as an overnight success. It is a result of everything you have done in your lifetime up until that moment.The overnight successes you see on stage took years to develop. #MnMInsights Click To Tweet
2. Believe someone else has the answers for you.
Every single one of us knows someone who has the right answer for you. They have the answers for everybody.
But I’ll let you in on 2 secrets.
One, that person does not know what the right answer is for YOU.
Your spouse does not have the right answer for you. Your parents do not have the right answer for you. Your best friend does not have the right answer for you. Only YOU do.
Two, look at their life. If they have the right answer for you, then their life should be all roses and sunshine, right?
Everyone has opinions. If you asked 50 people if you should go to Walmart or Target, you will get 50 different reasons why their choice is the best one.
The fact is that YOU are the only one who can live your life. You are the only one who has been through the struggles and the successes, endured pain and hardship.
Sure, maybe your best friend was with you the whole time, but she didn’t walk in your shoes, feel the pain, feel the struggle. She got to go home at night to her own life.
Your opinion is the only one that really matters. The path you choose may be the right one and it may be the wrong one, but only you can decide.
3. Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed.
Believe it or not, I don’t have much to say about this one. The example Bel gave in the video was awesome.
But let me give you another example.
You are biking up a very large hill. You’re pedaling hard, keeping at a steady pace. Finally, you can almost see the top. You’re getting closer and closer. It won’t be long now. You can finally start to ease up a little on the pedaling, your pace starts to slow.
Unfortunately, now you are losing momentum. If you continue to ease off, soon you will start to roll backwards.
It is even more important to push harder, faster, longer to reach the peak.
Don’t settle, don’t ease up when it’s smooth sailing, nothing is guaranteed.For a successful business you must push harder, faster, longer. Don’t settle, nothing is guaranteed. #MnMInsights Click To Tweet
4. Believe the fault is someone else’s.
The autoresponder shut me down because I got a complaint…
YouTube took away my account…
My team leader did not get back to me to show me how to…
No one else is responsible for your success or failure.
In the first 30 days of our business, our autoresponder was shut down after we spent hundreds of dollars on solo ads. Did that stop us? Did we quit? NO!
YouTube shut down 6 — yes, 6 of our YouTube channels for reasons still unknown to us. Did that stop us? Did we quit? NO!
I had a question or a problem and my upline didn’t get back to me in a timely fashion or teach me the proper way to do it. So what did we do? Googled it!
Your success and failure lies solely on you, no one else. You have access to the same information your upline does. You really do.
Most people think their upline and leaders in their company have a secret vault somewhere that only they have the password too. Trust me, they don’t.
Do you know why they have the answers? Because they know how to Google AND because they learned through trial and error, just like you will have to do.
5. Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.
Your dream is to scale Mount Everest. Only a few people have accomplished it, and you are going to be one of them.
So you set off on your adventure. Wow, it’s tough, really tough, much tougher than you even imagined. But you persist.
It’s bitter cold and there are many days you can’t go on until the weather clears. But you persist.
Days go into weeks. But you persist.
Finally you reach the top! Oh, the fresh air, the beauty. You celebrate! You snap as many pictures and videos as you can.
And then after a couple of hours, you go back down.
All that struggle paid off. You made it. Now what?
There was a leader in my previous internet business who said her only goal was to make $1 million. And she did.
But was she happy? Well of course she was....at first, but then she got very depressed.
Why? She had a million bucks!
It’s because that was her only goal, her only dream. After she accomplished it, she had to figure out something else to work towards.
Your dreams and goals are not everything. Whether you achieve them or you don’t, it is not everything. It’s the journey.
I didn’t believe that either, seriously. I didn’t want the journey. I wanted the end, the achievement, the dream, the goal.
But then what?
Your celebration, your achievement, your happiness at that success is very, very temporary.
We always dreamed of a big home to raise our kids in. Finally, 8 years after we were married, we were able to buy our dream home.
It was huge, 3700 square feet. It was beautiful. We were so happy and excited! We decorated it, made it into a home.
Just a couple of years later, we were cursing it. It was too big for me to handle with my health issues. The electric bill was astronomical. Our family had grown apart because there was too much space between us.
There was always upkeep. Something always needed to be repaired, painted, cleaned, cut, or mowed.
Our dream home, the one we were so excited to finally have became too much for us.
I can't say it any better than Bel:
"Achieving the dream is a momentary sensation and your life is not. The only way to fully enjoy all your dreams is to enjoy every step of your journey.
Your journey is made up of steps. Some steps will be right on. Sometimes you will trip. If it’s right on, celebrate. And if you trip, turn that into something to learn. If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate, you will for sure enjoy your journey."
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